posted on January 25, 2003 12:11:05 PM new
I am a single parent by choice. My child is 5, and is happy, healthy and well-adjusted. I work at home and have home-schooled him since he was 2. We have a lot of QUALITY time together. He plays t-ball and participates in activities outside our home, as well as the fact that he now goes to kindergarten. His teacher has commented to me numerous times how well-mannered and well-behaved he is, as well as her amazement at his reading, writing and vocabulary skills.
Some people fail to realize that when you have children, children come first
"Be kind. Remember everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." - Harry Thompson
posted on January 25, 2003 02:26:23 PM new
>Please explaine your statement,After my use of the word discipline.Then you freely use the word discipline in two other postings.
First, I was not criticizing your use of it. It only brought up a sore point that seemingly many people use the two words 'punishment' and 'discipline' interchangeably; e.g., that they are the same word, but used to change the rhythm of a sentence.
Disciplining a child does not strictly mean beating them, it means to enforce control over them, or to have them use self-control. When you administer discipline, that does not strictly mean that you are punishing a child or inflicting violence on the child. It means that you are using words and actions that amount to control over the child or self-control.
Examples of discipline that does not amount to punishment might be the tactic of explaining the situation in terms that the child can understand and they apply self-control; when a child is tired and sleepy they usually fight the impulse to go sleep it off and by making them go to bed and take a nap will create more discipline when they wake up; and so forth.
But too many people say ignorant things like, "Hey! I didn' discipline my child! I wuz good to him, judge!" or "If you discipline your child, make sure that you don't leave any marks."
Nope!,Can't find the word "discipline" associated with "uneducated".
In case of another memory lapse,You said:
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Most educated people do not use the word 'discipline' in place of the word "punishment".[/b]
Rather, some forms of discipline may use punishment as a means to create obedience; but administering punishment is not the discipline itself.
