posted on October 9, 2000 07:14:36 PM new
"My point was just that once you do decide to post publicly, you open yourself to all manner of comments, whether you like 'em or not. Not to say that you *deserve* them, just that you open yourself to them."
Diana, sorry if Im being persistant....Im really just trying to understand this. If that is the scenario, wouldnt it behoove the person who is contributing to the post not aimed that them, THINK before stating something that might be construed as "nosey" versus "care"? What is the purpose? Its like hearing a conversation from the other side of the room, and going over and saying "well, I heard what you said and this is what I think", and the conversation was between the two people only, even though their voices were not low. Or, it was about someone the two knew, or were discussing it, not in a private room, but still in the corner of the room. What was the intent of the person who joined them? To support, or to be nosey?
posted on October 9, 2000 07:16:37 PM new
Im sorry Diana...I was posting while you were and I didnt see youre still not feeling well. Go to bed...and know I wish I could make you all better.
posted on October 9, 2000 07:24:56 PM new
Yeah Maui, like in a school lunch room. Isn't there a teacher around here, btw? Nevermind, I don't even want to know about that...or like at a party, yeah...
posted on October 9, 2000 07:36:03 PM new
Heheh...guilty of one more refresh -
Maui...weeeeellll...I think it's always tricky to start talking about what behooves other people aside from the most general of behavioral standards (such as the AW TOS).
The reason is that we each of us come from a unique upbringing, and what appears rude to me might seem perfectly natural to you and vice versa, know what I mean?
Naturally there are some obvious extremes on both sides, like with anything. Some behavior is so hideously rude that nearly all of us recognize it as such, some is so very timid for fear of offending anyone that we can label it, as well.
But in the middle spectrum, it's difficult to facilitate or police politeness, because it is not the same to all people.
For myself, I can certainly say it behooves me to try to be careful with what I post, but believe me, even with the best of intentions, I insult people regularly.
That's why I particularly liked how Pareau and Kelly were able to overcome such a misunderstanding, by both being willing to look beyond the initial words (or more to the point, the impressions those words created in the other) and find a bridge upon which they could each walk forward.
Now! I'm really, really gone...but I'll look forward to reading where this goes in the morning.
posted on October 9, 2000 08:15:39 PM new
OH Diana I really liked that last post. A good case scenario is marriage. Hopefully if you are marrying someone you really like them and love them but even still you come from 2 different places and misunderstandings arise. Marry someone of a different faith or political affiliation or even from different parts of the country where customs differ and you add even bigger problems. Sprat's family thinks I'm the rudest thing on two feet. I myself think It is less insulting to insult people to their face and they think it is less insulting to do it behind their back. To each their own I suppose
Oddish~ The Odd One
posted on October 9, 2000 09:48:12 PM new
A good definition in real life, DoctorBeetle . However, here on the boards the curious don't have to ask - just keep reading to get many of the answers.
