katssimi
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posted on October 24, 2001 10:54:42 AM new
I've been reading these boards for a while now and decided to join.
I sell on ebay. I am a single mom.
How do I meet a good husband? I read all these wonderful posts by married people and see how happy they are. How did you meet your spouse?
I was married before, but I was a teen then and I really don't remember. I'm mature now and I'm tired of coming home to an empty house, ok not so empty. I have a hamster, daughter, dog, and 3 cats. But it isn't the same as coming home to a husband.
Suggestions??
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breinhold
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posted on October 24, 2001 10:57:45 AM new
"I have a hamster, daughter, dog, and 3 cats. But it isn't the same as coming home to a husband." ----the ladies are going to have a field day with that comment i just know it.
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RoseBids25cents
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:11:26 AM new
Katssimi
Would the hamster also receive top billing over a husband?... most men I know would want to be higher on the list.
I really have no valid suggestions for you - except that most of the happier marriages that I've witnessed are based on genuine friendship and mutual respect. Do you happen to have any plutonic male friends with whom you could envision becoming romantically involved?
And I suppose it's good advise to suggest that you keep it on the quiet that you are activly looking for a'hitchin' - for some reason that tends to scare them away.
Best of luck to you - Rosie
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snowyegret
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:19:28 AM new
Have you checked eBay?
I did threaten to list my husband....
You have the right to an informed opinion
-Harlan Ellison
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yadda36
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:22:22 AM new
"the happier marriages that I've witnessed are based on genuine friendship and mutual respect"
couldnt be more true............
I met my hubby through some friends and he is indeed my best friend!
Getting involved in some activities is a good way to meet people. I myself was involved in everything from martial arts, rollerblading and horseback riding to volunteering at some local museums to assist with their animals or curators.....whatever they needed me for. My point in mentioning this is that it allowed me to meet a variety of people from all walks of life.....
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katssimi
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:27:19 AM new
list not in order of importance
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Femme
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:29:05 AM new
Hi katssimi.
Welcome to the RT. 
Do you not work outside the home? Or, do volunteer work?
If not, I can see why it is hard for you to meet guys or even other women who might know someone to introduce to you.
Do you belong to a church?
Do you belong to any organizations?
Just grasping at straws, here.
Personally, I would have a very difficult time if I had to start over. I would probably only meet someone at an antiques show or auction. And, the bunch I see at our local auctions don't do a thing for me.
I met my second husband when I was working in the service department of a car dealership. I was the contact in service and he bought an Austin Healy we had on the lot and he wanted a radio installed.
I said no to his first 2 requests for dinner, but said yes the 3rd time. Thank goodness!! I would hate to think that someone else would have gotten this gem. His first wife's loss was my gain.
He told one of the guys in the garage to tell me I had nice legs. Wasn't that sweet?
P.S. We'll be married 30 years in February.
[ edited by Femme on Oct 24, 2001 11:30 AM ]
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breinhold
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:30:23 AM new
Rosie is right, we fall for that and baking helps..so the ultimate situation is you find a guy who loves baked goods, tell him you hate him but will make him a cake, and then SNAP! you got him....if you show up in a teddy and say "do I look dumb in this"..he will most defiantly your new pet.
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jamesoblivion
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:34:30 AM new
Well, I'm not married but it is very true that the (good girl's) way to man's heart is through his stomach.
Also, do not be afraid to let a guy know you are interested. What I mean by that is not doing everything but telling him that you are interested. Many women think they've done everything short of screaming in a guy's ear "I'M INTERESTED" ...so why doesn't he notice?
Answer: because you didn't scream in his ear "I'M INTERESTED".
Good luck!
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sadie999
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:36:46 AM new
Good girls go to heaven... bad girls go everywhere else. (Mae West, I think)
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katssimi
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:44:03 AM new
I burn everything I try to bake, but I am great at tv dinners and warming up soup. I don't go to church, but if I did, the men are very old. Young guys don't seem to step foot in church around here. Small town. Not much to do around here.
So far I've been out by a few guys, but they were a little weird. One guy asked me out while he was being violent and had to be escorted away by the police. I never even knew his name. Had another guy want me to join him in a crime spree as a first date, I declined. He got 7-10. Had another guy ask me out. He said, "would you like to get high with me this weekend?" I declined. I'm just having a hard time meeting decent guys. I guess I'll have to move somewhere with a high male population??
There's a city about an hour from here (I live in the sticks)but I get nervous when I go there ever since the driveby. I guess it's silly though, what's the odds of that happening again.
But I'd still really like to meet a nice, normal man who doesn't use drugs or want to use a woman for a punching bag, wouldn't even mind if he had kids. I have one afterall.
What places are good in big cities (if I go visit the city)?
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ewora
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:47:15 AM new
The only difference between a teddy and a throw rug is...well there is no difference.
They both end up in the same place.
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katssimi
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:48:00 AM new
a teddy??
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ewora
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:49:55 AM new
Come up here to Alaska. We've all kinds of men. More outside Anchorage. Anchorage is about 50/50. We've a magazine up here. Very tasteful called the Alaska Men magazine. Men looking for companionship and even wives.
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ewora
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:51:38 AM new
teddy--flimsy nightwear designed to excite the male gender.
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MrsSantaClaus
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:52:09 AM new
Let your friends know you are looking for someone ... you never know who is out there if you don't ask 
Also, the other suggestions are excellent. While going out with my sister-in-law helping her meet people I did notice one thing - the crowds at the bars are very different. If you go to see a rock band, chances are you won't meet many people. If, however, you go to a dance club or out to see a dance band you never know who you might meet
I'm not cutting on rock bands, folks ... but on the dance floor with a rock band there are many small groups of people dancing. On the dance floor with a dance band it is one big happy party.
I picked my hubby up at the local disco ... over 30 years ago. I hated his shirt and some girls said they would beat me up if I went for him .. they wanted him.
Confession time ... I flirted with him because I wanted to be a dj. The rest, as they say, is history
BECKY
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kraftdinner
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:54:04 AM new
Gee james....if I did a bunch of stuff to show a guy I was interested in him and he didn't catch on, I'm not sure that he would be able to catch on to other things if we were thinking about a future together. But then, I go for brains. 
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luvmy2bears
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:56:16 AM new
Want mine?
He's smart, handsome, sexy.
He's great at fixing things, great with cars.
He's makes good money & is good at his job.
He's kind and sensitive, generous & friendly.
He's great with all kids and animals.
Starting bid's just $1!
Just joking, he's too great to get rid of. I met him through a mutual friend. That seems to be a pretty popular way to meet good guys. Talk to your friends. If need be, go make more friends!
katssimi I truely belive that we all have someone special out there that is MEANT for us. You'll find him one day.
In the meantime have some fun. Get out and let youself be seen & known. He can't find you if your at home at the computer!
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jamesoblivion
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:58:24 AM new
This isn't a cerebral thing. I think many women are more subtle about things than guys and might think, for example, that popping nude out of a birthday cake for a guy indicates interest whereas the guy just doesn't get it until it's spelled out a little more clearly.
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godzillatemple
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:59:33 AM new
www.match.com
Barry
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katssimi
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posted on October 24, 2001 11:59:46 AM new
sorry ewora, I just don't wear nightclothes so never got into that stuff. I always sleep in the nude.
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breinhold
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posted on October 24, 2001 12:02:48 PM new
Ask if you wanted to go on a crime spree with him??????? what the....? worse pick up line EVER! if I was you I would move. then try the grocery store, look for some pitiful nice looking guy staring at vegetables and help him pick out a cantaloupe...if he gets arrested stealing it....go back to the baking plan and move again.
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ewora
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posted on October 24, 2001 12:04:12 PM new
Actually I do to. But sometimes it's nice to wrap up the package. But like I said they don't stay on long.
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nebula5
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posted on October 24, 2001 12:15:11 PM new
How did I snag my husband? I gave him his first modem and an AOL floppy! (I was upgrading from my 1400 baud external to a 2800 baud internal. Whew, those were the days!)
We had known each other for years, we hung out with the same group of friends. However, when I began to take an interest in him, he was Mr. Clueless. So... I got him online, and we started exchanging emails and instant messages. Eventually he got the idea.
The key was, we already knew each other from a group of friends with a shared interest, which we continue to pursue. I can't imagine being with someone who didn't share my peculiar interests!
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Femme
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posted on October 24, 2001 12:51:43 PM new
Had another guy want me to join him in a crime spree as a first date, I declined.
LOL...Now, that's funny.
I have to admit it's been a long time since a man has turned my head and made me want to lose my wedding band, but...
I was in an antique shop one day and down the same aisle I was in was this man that truly took my breath away.
He wasn't drop-dead gorgeous, but he had beautiful silver hair, a silver mustache, well-groomed and dressed to perfection, including a black cashmere topcoat.
I went past him, but since I believe you can make someone's day with a sincere compliment, I walked back to him (making sure I had my panting under control) and complimented him on his appearance. Be still my heart. 
BTW, I bought my husband a black cashmere topcoat last year for Christmas.
BBL
[ edited by Femme on Oct 24, 2001 12:55 PM ]
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krs
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posted on October 24, 2001 12:57:49 PM new
now that's what I call trolling.
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jamesoblivion
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posted on October 24, 2001 12:59:24 PM new
Wish you'd thought of it?
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krs
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posted on October 24, 2001 01:03:41 PM new
Ask someone about gaggles sometime.
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Hepburn
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posted on October 24, 2001 01:05:22 PM new
Uh huh.
edited to change goodbye to toodles.
[ edited by Hepburn on Oct 24, 2001 01:07 PM ]
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breinhold
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posted on October 24, 2001 01:12:15 PM new
sometimes you just troll with the punches for fun. the cuffed dream date was my favorite.
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