posted on November 24, 2004 12:24:25 PM new
LOL I mean it!
Of the people that are coming is Liz (my pregnant daughter) her guy, and HIS PARENTS
She calls and tells me that they do not smoke or drink etc etc..
So (Mike smokes, his bad) I am washing down all the walls, steamcleaning the carpets.
What? Hide his little wine collection?
There is a minor 'storm' coming, and sorry! but I hope the power goes out! I decided I don't want to do this, already I'll have to get up at 4 am and start cooking and everything else. So I am for once hoping it goes out. The casino has great generators and I hear that they have a T Day dinner too!
posted on November 24, 2004 12:39:28 PM new
I'm not married, so I have no actual experience here, But I know plenty of married people. why do you care what your son-in-law's parents think?
If your son-in-law personally gets along with you, then I can't see why his parents opinion of you matters at all.
In a typical family, how often do both sets of parents get together anyway? Maybe once a year for a major holiday? I should hope everyone can be civil for one evening during the family holiday, but if not, how tough can it be to have two seperate holidays?
Seems like worry for nothing. I'm sure you were going to cook a nice meal anyway, even before this surprise was sprung on you.
I'm sure your husband can skip the smoking for one afternoon. And if he won't... well, it's HIS house, I know my mother smokes in her house despite who is there. If they don't like the smoke, they can leave.
If it REALLY is bugging you, you can always say you didn't buy a big enough turkey (or whatever) or you just aren't ready to have a crowd that size. It might be fun for everyone to have Thansgiving in a Casino. I'd love it, and I'm no gambler!
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posted on November 24, 2004 12:40:04 PM newLOL..Near.. sounds like a plan to me! And the Casinos are serving a wonderful Thanksgiving Dinner, I might go and check it out myself!
Santa cutie, there's one thing I really do need, the deed To a platinum mine Santa cutie, and hurry down the chimney tonight
posted on November 24, 2004 12:51:29 PM new
Replay, I shouldn't care what they think, Matt is great. He is here a lot, and he doesn't mind Mike or my brother smoking. He drinks a beer with Mike, yeah he's cool
My brother even told me the same thing, its YOUR house, if they don't like it, they leave. What my daughter said was 'She's ALLERGIC to any smells of smoke or smoking'
arghhh thats why all the cleaning.
I think secretly I just want to go the casino and loose myself (and my money! ) there! LOL!
posted on November 24, 2004 01:09:11 PM new
"She's ALLERGIC to any smells"
Is she REALLY allergic, or just one of those people who use that excuse to inconvenience smokers? If she's a "rabid anti-smoker" it could just be an excuse. Funny, that's not an issue debated here on the RT very often. It gets debated at my Mom's house all the time
If she REALLY is allergic, then you should probably really push the idea of going elsewhere. There's no amount of cleaning you can do to get that smell out of the furniture overnight.
I was raised by two smokers, and I was always getting lectured by teachers, counselors, etc. in High School about smoking. I didn't smoke then, I never have. I just smelled that way for 18 years. Smokers don't realize how strongly that smell carries.
I personally still don't notice it, but plenty of people can smell a smoker as soon as they enter the room.
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posted on November 24, 2004 01:17:23 PM new
I doubt she's REALLY allegric.... I don't want to start another debate but its an anti smoking thing with her.
My dad smoked 5 packs a day. Course he was only home on weekends, but it never bothered me, nor does it bother me that others do it. (I smoke the occasional anxiety cigarette myself, so I can't be anti smoking!)
OK everyone hop on the Casino Express for Thanksgiving!!!
posted on November 24, 2004 01:20:31 PM new
Etex.. we are closest to Magic in Bay St.Louis, but it's a dive..so we go to Harrah's in New Orleans or the Grand in Gulfport or Beau Rivage in Biloxi.. they all take my money, with no problem..lol
Santa cutie, there's one thing I really do need, the deed To a platinum mine Santa cutie, and hurry down the chimney tonight
posted on November 24, 2004 01:29:53 PM new
::'She's ALLERGIC to any smells of smoke or smoking' ::
I would simply tell her that you are very sorry to hear of her allergies and that you don't feel that you can not adequately remove all evidence of your husbands lifestyle from the home in time to make it a safe place for her to visit. Sugest that rather than put her health at risk by exposing her to your home, perhaps it would be better if the family got together at her place. You can bring a pie
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posted on November 24, 2004 02:21:39 PM new
My inlaws don't drink or smoke. When they come here, which they'll be doing at any moment, they know better than to beef about it. Sounds like from your expression "her guy", you aren't even in-laws yet.
Smoke if you got 'em, where's the whiskey???
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posted on November 24, 2004 02:57:03 PM new
Did you know they where coming or was this a surprise visit. If it is too much for you to do the cooking and what have you it might not be a bad idea to all go out to dinner and just hand them a map for all the great local hotels or motels in your area.
posted on November 24, 2004 04:54:53 PM new
profe, your right, I do call him her 'husband' they are getting married after, he REALLY wanted to right away, it was her, she is waiting to fit into the 'perfect wedding dress' BUT I told my family they are -my bad- as they are really 'old fashion' and very devout Catholics, my older sisters and my father, my father would sh*t a brick if he knew they were not, so .... I lied. But they will, and I hope that these people become 'inlaws' and not 'outlaws' LOL!
It is going to be awkward for sure. His parents are YOUNG, and they still have kids in high school! I won't say her name, but it sure does not sound like a grandmas name kind of like a Barbie name! If they turn into vegetarians too, thats it! I'll leave, alone! no tofu turkey for me!!!
Fred, so does it feel strange to you to have people that are going to be related, meeting them for the first time and having a holiday dinner together?
dad, I ALWAYS go by what people allow or do not allow in their home, if someone doesn't smoke, Mike would not at all smoke.
But Liz is soooooooooo worried...
Well Happy Thanksgiving.....looks like the power won't go out, DAMN!
posted on November 24, 2004 05:12:38 PM new
Do make sure she knows there is a smoker in your home, and what your plans are. I.E. not to smoke inside, or to keep on keeping on. If she is REALLY allergic to smoke this info is important to her. The attitude you encounter will tell you a lot about them, just as the attitude they encounter will tell them a lot about you. It sounds like you are going the extra mile to make them comfortable! Don't forget to change the filter in your furnace or A/C if you have 'em.
Oh, and if they are unreasonable give them the boot. You'll regret it if you don't.
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posted on November 24, 2004 05:18:10 PM new
NTS, I have a simple solution for you. Just flip all the breakers in the switchbox to the off position and remove the fuzes, light some candles and hand everyone a big mug of whiskey as they come through the door. Then if you wanna be a little bit more daring, ask if anyone knows how to barbeque a turkey.
ed to add; after everthing calms down, turn you're puter on and let them all read this thread.
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posted on November 24, 2004 08:09:39 PM new
Near, what I understand from my wife & son, they are more fearful of me. I expect to learn a lot from them. I smoke, they don't.
So when I want to smoke, I will remove my self as I have for the past 20 years to my wood working shop or office.
posted on November 26, 2004 04:11:02 PM new
This is the funniest thread I have read and true, too.
What is it about nonsmokers that puts the fear of the Lord in us? Worst thing that ever happened was pixilated people putting a stop to smoking at High School football games. Not only did it help with bugs but it kept away people I didn't want to talk to, anyway.
NTS, I'm sorry for your problem but I wouldn't worry about it. Fred, I'm really sorry to hear you are being inundated by strangers. Good Luck!
Our lights did go out and when they came back on the circuit breakers were all messed up and neither the oven nor microwave and heaven forbid the electric can opener worked. We had the important things like heat, TV and water. We drove through the snow to Grandma's house with a relish tray. I'm the only one who smokes unless a couple of the nieces sneak one every once in a while so I refrained until we hit the car for the trip back home. Everything got fixed today and I can't wait to see the bill. I usually cook our own Turkey dinner the way I like it while we eat there but not this year.
Now we wait for Christmas. I'll bet all of the grandchildren will be sick again. Seems to never fail. AND their parents don't smoke !!!
) there! LOL! 
But they will, and I hope that these people become 'inlaws' and not 'outlaws' LOL!