posted on March 27, 2001 12:08:57 PM new
Do it here, Julesy! SHRIEK in type as much as you like. GET IT ALL OUT!!
I'm having an OK day but my head is fuzzy from some kind of virus or...? I have no desire to shriek, just to nap. But I'll heartily support vents of any kind by anyone who needs to blow off some steam!
posted on March 27, 2001 12:37:04 PM new
I'm currently in the midst of negotiating an "amicable" divorce settlement with the soon to be ex-MrJulesy, and I'm learning SO, SO fast that "amicable" really means "one person get's screwed, and that usually means the one who wants out." We are going through both a mediator and a divorce therapist as we try to iron out the details, involving both the kids and finances...and I'm really sick of being guilted and feeling like I have to placate everyone and be agreeable.
I just want to leave, and I would like it to be with some of my life left INTACT. MUST I be punished for wanting some genuine joy in my life? Don't get me wrong, or feel sorry for me...I'm relieved(!!!) that this is happening, but I wish it could happen with a certain modicum of fairness. Oh, that's right, NOTHING about divorce is fair...*&@#!
I say DOWN with the notion of amicable divorces!! It's a MYTH!
posted on March 27, 2001 12:46:47 PM new
Julesy, I had an "amicable" divorce about twenty five years ago. I did get screwed. He thought he got screwed to so that is what made it amicable. Good luck to you! You will feel as though the weight of the world has been lifted from your shoulders sometime after it is all over!
Hang in there and scream all you want.
You have our total support....for whatever that's worth. With your intelligence and strength of character, you'll handle the situation as well as anyone possibly could.
posted on March 27, 2001 01:00:42 PM new
I'm sorry, Julesy. It's a tough thing to go through regardless of how "amicable" it starts out. Keep your chin up.
posted on March 27, 2001 03:39:46 PM new
I appreciate it, everyone, and I will be OK. I'm just frustrated right now, though I know there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Doesn't the island of Mikonos in Greece have those quickie divorce thingies? I wouldn't mind spending a month in Greece getting this whole "amicable" thing squared away.
posted on March 27, 2001 03:49:09 PM new
Julesy - I hope venting helped at least a little. Once you get through it all you'll feel much better... and congratulations on your liberation!
posted on March 27, 2001 05:16:36 PM new
Did ya ever notice I can say #*!@, #*!@, #*!@ and they all come with the same little pattern of thingies here.
posted on March 27, 2001 05:37:36 PM new
I can not see any WOMAN wanting to go to Greece for a divorce. They are such sexist pigs I shudder to think how you would come out on that. I had enough trouble working for a Greek contractor - he grabbed my brother-in-law's behind playfully and Mike turned around on the ladder and burned the fellows eyebrows off with a big #3 Insto-torch. He had a wife and daughters but boys were for fun. I always thought that was a stereotype but he fit it.
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