posted on September 8, 2000 11:22:23 PM new
I've been a department manager in my RL job for 3 or 4 months now. I was promoted when my previous manager went on maternity leave and decided not to return. I was SOOOO glad she made that choice, not so I could have her job, but because she was such a negative person. She had everyone in the department walking on eggshells wondering what kind of mood she was going to be in. I tried to cut her a lot of slack, thinking most of if was because of her pregnancy, but others said no, she was always that way. I must say, she has had a serious influence on how I do my job now. I'm still learning the ropes, but after working with her negativity, if I don't have all the answers, I'm making the attempt to be positive I don't know what I'm doing.
Edited to add: Hold a grudge? Naw, get even and let it go. Life's too short.
posted on September 9, 2000 06:13:55 AM new
All that anger and bitterness did affect my mother-she contracted cancer that eventually killed her. I firmly believe her emotional cancer led to her contracting physical cancer.
posted on September 9, 2000 09:40:30 AM new
TooMany: Sometimes a grudge has its roots in hurt feelings. All too often though, the roots are simply a bruised ego. Take road rage, for example. From time to time you hear of someone actually shooting and killing another person simply because they cut in front of them in traffic.
Irene
[ edited by stockticker on Sep 9, 2000 09:41 AM ]
posted on September 9, 2000 06:07:29 PM new
How nice! Two Shells in the same thread
Just wanted to say thanks to everyone who is posting to this thread....gives me insight, ya know? And Shellspc...I know what youre talking about being associated with someone who is negative all the time. I like to call it another way "they are dragging me in the cave where its dark all the time". I got tired of the constant slams of people, the constant ridicules, the constant meanness in general. Nothing ever NICE, never any show of affection and pushing me away when I wanted to show it, needed to show it, desired to show what I thought of this person. Being pushed away, made me finally stay away. Dont know what that has to do with grudges...but Im sure it fits in there somewhere?
posted on September 9, 2000 11:56:21 PM new
hold a grudge?
I have yes, do I like to? No.
Do I want to? No.
Do I attempt to not hold a grudge? yes.
What do I do when I find I am holding a grudge? I let it go.
Now, if someone hurts me, does deciding to not have anything more to do with that person, considered a grudge? No.
I harbor no hatred, nor do I think about what he/she did to me, I just choose to not associate with them (be it online or RL)
So in my own defination of the word grudge, no I do not hold a grudge, I just go on with life.
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