popnrock
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posted on November 7, 2003 06:45:18 AM new
I started dating this guy over the summer. One day we are looking on Ebay for his favorite childhood cartoon. We find one. I buy-it-now and give it to him.
The seller lets me know he has other DVD and the boyfriend tells me he wants the rest of the set. I buy them from seller. Boyfriend tells me will pay me right away.
Boyfriend breaks up with me. Tells me he is going to pay me back for DVDs.
I still have DVDs. No payment yet ...... Promises me every week he is going to pay me......
I decide to get rid of them.
Ebay is the only place I can think getting rid of them. The problem I have is that they are "copies". They shouldn't be on ebay to begin with. They are a couple of sellers on Ebay that offer these DVDS. There is bad blood among the sellers .....
So do I list them? Keep them and learn a lesson? What would you do?
Ladies, if you see a Derek Jeter look -a-like coming towards you, run......
Miss J
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liveinjeans
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posted on November 7, 2003 06:53:49 AM new
sell them and put them under his name!!
Put his phone number too.
(ok, it was JUST a thought!)
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Libra63
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posted on November 7, 2003 07:04:44 AM new
scratch them and then give them to him..Don't want you to get in trouble with eBay
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stopwhining
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posted on November 7, 2003 07:12:33 AM new
you learn a lesson on love and buying on ebay.
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popnrock
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posted on November 7, 2003 07:20:01 AM new
Libra63, you are right. I do not want to get in trouble with Ebay. I have worked too hard for over three years to blow it over this guy.
LOL he just sent me a message letting me know he is still going to pay me ......
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popnrock
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posted on November 7, 2003 07:20:08 AM new
Libra63, you are right. I do not want to get in trouble with Ebay. I have worked too hard for over three years to blow it over this guy.
LOL he just sent me a message letting me know he is still going to pay me ......
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fluffythewondercat
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posted on November 7, 2003 07:28:24 AM new
If I didn't already believe in karma, I would after reading that story.
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The beauty of the California political process is that "Recall Gray Davis" can now have a question mark on the end.
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stopwhining
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posted on November 7, 2003 07:33:34 AM new
how much is the monetary loss?
fall in love and you suffer like a dog,panting and sweating and rolling in dirt for no good reason.
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alldings
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posted on November 7, 2003 07:46:09 AM new
Treat him like a customer tell him to pay up in 3 days or they are gone. The DVD's appear to be a link to you in case the "new" girl doesn't work out. Can't believe I'm ratting out my own gender!
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popnrock
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posted on November 7, 2003 07:48:28 AM new
I am out $115 .... It's not the money that has me upset. I am mad at myself for trusting someone I didn't very long. I am mad at myself for falling for "babe, I won't screw you over." The only longer I have these DVDS he still has an excuse to pop in and out of my life.
Thanks gang for listening.
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stopwhining
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posted on November 7, 2003 07:51:47 AM new
he will pop back into your life !!
if so,you better hold on to them then!!
-sig file -------The thrill is gone!!
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kliggin
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posted on November 7, 2003 08:37:34 AM new
Don't sell them on Ebay. There's no need of getting yourself in trouble for this guy. My "revengeful" side tells me to go along with Libra63. The mother side of me is another story. Give them to some H.S. kid or someone else who would appreciate them. It'll make you feel good that you did something nice for someone.
As far as the boyfriend... there are many fish in the sea that have not been caught. Any good fisherman would tell you that you always have to throw out a few of the bad fish. Consider yourself lucky, you didn't marry him, there are no kids involved, and you've learned a valuable lesson. Some folks haven't been that lucky. Best of luck.
[ edited by kliggin on Nov 7, 2003 08:40 AM ]
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Twelvepole
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posted on November 7, 2003 08:59:00 AM new
scratch them and then give them to him..Don't want you to get in trouble with eBay
bad advice... you must be a real dear drabby..
Just give them to him and be the better person.
AIN'T LIFE GRAND... 
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popnrock
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posted on November 7, 2003 09:02:17 AM new
Don't sell them on Ebay. There's no need of getting yourself in trouble for this guy. My "revengeful" side tells me to go along with Libra63. The mother side of me is another story. Give them to some H.S. kid or someone else who would appreciate them. It'll make you feel good that you did something nice for someone.
As far as the boyfriend... there are many fish in the sea that have not been caught. Any good fisherman would tell you that you always have to throw out a few of the bad fish. Consider yourself lucky, you didn't marry him, there are no kids involved, and you've learned a valuable lesson. Some folks haven't been that lucky. Best of luck.
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I was thinking of donating them to our Holiday Party Door price. However I doubt anyone has ever heard of it. "Marine Boy". Does anyone heard of it?
I met someone else and the old BF is bent out of shape over it. He told me, in his own words "I am no longer interested in you" so I move on and he is upset over it. What ????? I really don't get men.
Thanks for listening.
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stopwhining
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posted on November 7, 2003 09:38:12 AM new
get a hound dog !!
i recommend a scottish deerhound,great personality and great strength,it can tackle and bring down a stag weighing 3/4 ton.
-sig file -------The thrill is gone!!
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lindajean
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posted on November 7, 2003 10:37:09 AM new
Unless he pays don't give it to him. I would throw them away first! And, I like the idea of giving him xx days to pay up or lose them. (even if I tossed them in the closest river).
You don't need:
1. A constant reminder of a bad relationship.
2. him to have an excuse to keep popping back in your life!
Just my 2 cents worth
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sparkz
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posted on November 7, 2003 10:39:47 AM new
Get a Rottweiler. They are more loyal than most boyfriends and they love to use DVD's as frisbees.
The light at the end of the tunnel will turn out to be an oncoming train.
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AuctionAce
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posted on November 7, 2003 11:01:43 AM new
Live and learn ... resell them if you're certain there will not be a reconcilation. ( there are a lot of fish in the sea, like you said though ).
There was a great line from the movie National Lampoon's Animal House after Flounder had borrowed his brother's Lincoln and the frat misfits totally destroyed it. The line went something like " Face it, you screwed up by trusting us. "
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Roadsmith
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posted on November 7, 2003 11:22:23 AM new
The Bad Me likes Libra's suggestions. The Good Me likes LindaJean's. Depends on which side of the bed I get up on.
I'd give them to a teenager, after giving this guy 3 days to pay up or lose them forever. Get him out of your life. Otherwise he'll just keep coming around.
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Junk: Stuff we throw away.
Stuff: Junk we keep.
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stopwhining
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posted on November 7, 2003 11:29:36 AM new
rottweiler is a liability,it cant hunt!
scottish deerhound can keep your freexer full with deer filet!!
-sig file -------The thrill is gone!!
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fluffythewondercat
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posted on November 7, 2003 11:58:42 AM new
The problem I have is that they are "copies". They shouldn't be on ebay to begin with.
Why do you suppose they shouldn't be on eBay to begin with?
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The beauty of the California political process is that "Recall Gray Davis" can now have a question mark on the end.
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popnrock
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posted on November 7, 2003 12:57:21 PM new
fluffythewondercat
posted on November 7, 2003 11:58:42 AM new
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The problem I have is that they are "copies". They shouldn't be on ebay to begin with.
Why do you suppose they shouldn't be on eBay to begin with?
When I bought them, I didn't know that they were made from a VCR copy. I thought I was getting a factory copy. Turns out the series was never released on DVD. Isn't it against the "rules" to sell homemade copies?
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fluffythewondercat
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posted on November 7, 2003 01:23:38 PM new
Right.
So here's my suggestion: Take the moral high ground (which IMHO is always best when dealing with an ex).
Next time he calls, tell him that you've had a crisis of conscience. You realize that you never should have bought bootleg copies but you were only trying to make him happy. Nevertheless, it was wrong, and you felt the only way to clear your conscience was to destroy the DVDs.
Thus: "So sorry, sweetie, I just don't have them any more. What we had was fun while it lasted but you're just not good for me."
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The beauty of the California political process is that "Recall Gray Davis" can now have a question mark on the end.
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bunnicula
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posted on November 7, 2003 01:24:02 PM new
Maybe so, but there is someone on eBay who sells Charlie Chan DVDs--and they're not officially on DVD, either...
Censorship, like charity, should begin at home; but unlike charity, it should end there --Clare Booth Luce
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fenix03
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posted on November 7, 2003 03:52:54 PM new
Jusst to really stir the pot... Was the series in question ever aired in the US? Was the VHS series ever officially realesed in the US? If the answer to both of these questions is no, then there are no US copyright laws that apply to the production and ebay has no legal ground to stand on in terms of shutting them down.
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If it's really "common" sense, why do so few people actually have it?
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lovepotions
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posted on November 7, 2003 04:22:05 PM new
Tell the EX if he wants them pay up now and be on his way.... IF not...
The EX can't be the only person to have heard of this movie. Find someone ELSE who'd appreciate then and give the DVD's to them instead.
http://www.lovepotions.com
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tonimar1
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posted on November 7, 2003 04:37:05 PM new
What I would do is ..............if i knew he was out of my life for good then I would take them and donate them, just to get rid of them. I would not mention them anymore and go on with my life as though he never existed.
If, and when he did call I would simply tell him they are no longer here and dont call me anymore. Show him he means nothing to you and your going on with the living.
Money is nothing compared to a lesson that is learned, and I would say you did learn from this experience. So, GO ON Living as though he was just a shadow passing you in the night.... And as you said, "you worked to hard to have a problem with Ebay now"........so on to the next!!!!but smarter and wiser.
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stopwhining
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posted on November 7, 2003 04:40:33 PM new
i would still want to recoup my 151 dollars.
-sig file -------The thrill is gone!!
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fluffythewondercat
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posted on November 7, 2003 04:44:03 PM new
Well, stop, you must have had a short and happy life so far (congratulations!), because it's well worth $115 to get rid of some people compared to the time, suffering and monetary loss they can cause you later down the road.
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The beauty of the California political process is that "Recall Gray Davis" can now have a question mark on the end.
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stopwhining
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posted on November 7, 2003 05:08:02 PM new
well,money is money and we are talking 151 big bucks in my book.
since she has no more feeling for her ex,why not treat this transaction as bad debt collection,recover as much as she can.
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