popnrock
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posted on February 4, 2004 09:57:20 AM new
A friend of mine is having trouble at her office with her workers. One day she showed someone an item what she won on Ebay. No big deal right, well now her co-workers keep tabs on the items she buys,constantly add up to total of purchases and give her a hard time over her spending.
I told her to change her screen name but they keep such close tabs on her they found out.
She tried making her feedback private but sellers would not sell to her.
She tried asking sellers not leave feedback for her (so after 30 days her purchases do not show up) but the first seller she asked was offended ?????
All I can think of is close her account and open a new one.
Does anyone have any other suggestions. For the record she buy anything that would cause her embarrassment.
Her co-workers are losers who have no life. She can't go to her boss and complain because he is the one looking up her sales and spreading the word to the other workers.
Miss J
xoxoxo
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CBlev65252
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posted on February 4, 2004 10:19:19 AM new
#1. What she does in her personal life is no one's business. I wouldn't hesitate to make that vocally known.
#2. I would report the behavior to my boss' superior. Being a "superior" myself, I would not tolerate this kind of behavior from any of my employees. He is in violation of several laws including invasion of privacy. Tell her to savvy up to employment laws in her state. Do a Google search and she should be able to find them. Her boss is being extremely unprofessional.
#3. Here's what I would do, I'd have someone I know make up a ficticious auction for a book I'd title, "How to Legally Humiliate Your Boss in 10 Words or Less" or something to that effect. Set the auction up as private for maybe 99 cents so only she can bid on it. Let him spread that one around. I'd also buy something extremely raunchy just to get my point across.
#4. Contact your local media office if you really want to make waves of your own. I'd say she could probably make her boss' life extremely miserable.
I'm afraid she may have to fight fire with fire or they will never leave her alone. Her boss is creating a hostile work environment. A big fat NO NO.
Cheryl
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[ edited by CBlev65252 on Feb 4, 2004 10:19 AM ]
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popnrock
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posted on February 4, 2004 10:29:04 AM new
She cannot do much to fight back against the boss because there is no one higher. She needs her job ......
It goes beyond just what she does on Ebay. She has a cell phone and on her break she will go outside and make calls, they keep track how long she talks.
When friends meet her for lunch, they make rude comments about her friends...
Anyway.... I think it isn't anyone's business what someone else buys. I guess Ebay has to link the feedback with the item.
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CBlev65252
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posted on February 4, 2004 10:40:36 AM new
popnrock
Tell her to find an employment law attorney. She has a very good case. Her employer is violating the law. At the very least, there has been a "hostile" environment created for her. Most attorneys will give her a free consultation. Since talking to them will do no good, that's her next best recourse. Make sure she documents EVERYTHING on paper including dates and times (where possible). The more evidence she has, the better.
Cheryl
http://tinyurl.com/vm6u
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Fenix03
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posted on February 4, 2004 10:50:08 AM new
She needs to start a brand new account. Changing the name of her existing account will not help since the new name will come up when doing a bidder search for the old one.
I like Cheryls idea of a planted auction but I would make it "How to Deal with Nosy Intrusive People without Insulting Them" and use the description to describe how their stalking makes her feel and how she resents their actions. All in the guise of a book of course 
Her bid on that book should be the last bid on that ID. That way she can walk away from their intrusion and hopefully get the point across in a non confrontational way.
Useually I'm all for confrontation but I'm assuming she actually wants to keep this job
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Libra63
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posted on February 4, 2004 11:09:11 AM new
The first thing she needs to do is document. Without documentation there is no case. This is very important. So she should start immediately. Be sure she keeps that close at hand at all times.
Do not take the cell phone to work. I believe cell phones do not belong there. If she needs to talk to someone use the office phone but only in emergencies.
I think you can also classify this as stalking.
She really needs to separate herself from her work place. Coworkers are not friends and I am a firm believer of that.
Next close her account and get a new one.
How terrible this must be but remember you can't mix work and play. Good Luck
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stopwhining
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posted on February 4, 2004 11:17:23 AM new
well.she is the one who told her workers what she does on ebay,why??
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tnernie
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posted on February 4, 2004 11:24:18 AM new
I have a friend who had a similar situation with a SIL stalking her auctions. She handled the problem by running this auction:
2981175128 (sorry, don't know how to make a link to it)
Needless to say...SIL FREAKED! 
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iareateacher
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posted on February 4, 2004 11:28:49 AM new
Do not take the cell phone to work. I believe cell phones do not belong there.
Huh?
You shouldn't go outside on your break and use your cell phone?
To me, that's being extremely responsible. I once had an officemate who spent at least (no lie) 6 hours a day on the phone with her buddies. THAT's an abuse.
She was eliminated in the first wave of layoffs. Went to another company, laid off again. Got another job, another lay off.
Lather. Shampoo. Rinse. Repeat.
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CBlev65252
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posted on February 4, 2004 11:32:21 AM new
tnernie
That's too funny!
Here's the link: http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=2981175128
Cheryl
http://tinyurl.com/vm6u
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popnrock
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posted on February 4, 2004 11:45:43 AM new
OMG! That is the best revenge!
My friend is an "online" friend. She lives in a small town in Idaho so she uses Ebay to buy things she can't find locally.
One day she was excited over something she won and she showed the co-worker. That co-worker decided to show the boss and that is when he started watching her ebay activities.
If it were me, I would start a new account and would go after the boss for harrassment but..... She asked me to post on here because if she posted her question on the Ebay board, her boss would probably find that too.
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gousainc-07
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posted on February 4, 2004 11:57:56 AM new
Open a new account using a different email address. There is no need to close the old account or change the name.
Feedback is not the only link that lets one see what the person bought.
Searching by bidder http://pages.ebay.com/search/items/search_bidder.html lets you see everything a person bid on, whether they won or did not win.
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glassgrl
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posted on February 4, 2004 11:59:22 AM new
popnrock: is she a bidder and a seller? if they are following what she's bidding or bid on....that that means one of us need to host the auction, right? so that she can be the high bidder.
if so.....who wants to volunteer? if nobody else does, I'll do it.
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stopwhining
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posted on February 4, 2004 12:03:42 PM new
what kind of work place is this?boss keeps track of subordinate bidding and ebay chat??
i love these questions like i have a friend,bla bla bla.
going out to lunch with friend not approved by office workers??
talking on cell phone,bidding on ebay??
is she spending more than she makes??
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popnrock
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posted on February 4, 2004 12:42:51 PM new
She decided to start fresh with a new account.
She is a buyer, not a seller. Her boss an co-workers have too much time on their hands.
Thanks you for your replies.
Miss J
xoxoxoxo
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glassgrl
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posted on February 4, 2004 01:16:46 PM new
the offer still stands.
a picture of her boss would do nicely for the book cover.
I have photo editing<g>
or maybe she could put one of these on her desk?
[ edited by glassgrl on Feb 4, 2004 01:21 PM ]
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ebayvet
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posted on February 4, 2004 01:37:47 PM new
My advice would be to just be direct with them, and tell them to back off. If they don't, there will be consequences - stalkers are taken very seriously, and I would start with a police report.
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myoldtoy
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posted on February 4, 2004 02:41:03 PM new
popnrock may i be curious?
..has the employee been using company computer/time to buy on ebay? if she has, then she probably opened up pandora's box herself...and she changed her screen name... to quote you, "they keep such close tabs on her that they found out." YOU GOTTA BE KIDDING...DONT YOU KNOW, IT "AINT" A SECRET IF YOU SHARE IT...so, what makes you think a new account would solve her problem...as you said, " they keep such close tabs on her."
..i can see it now...one employee standing on another employee's shoulder to gain a view over the wall of your friend's booth...or maybe a employee using the old atm mirror trick to watch her key strokes..
..i did not mean to make light of this situation, because harrassment in any shape, color or form is very serious... but given the info in your thread, she may be "her own worse enemy."
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