posted on August 23, 2001 09:24:46 PM new
What do you really like about yourself? Have you overcome a fear?.....a negative personality trait?.....are you really good at something?.....?????
Although it's difficult for some people to talk about themselves, try and think of just one good thing.
posted on August 24, 2001 12:07:29 AM new
OK, I'll play.
Regarding overcoming a fear:
When I was younger, you might say I was somewhat introverted. Incredibly shy is more like it. My husband (then boyfriend) and his sister wanted to go down to the local theater and audition for the current production. I went along for the ride, so to speak. There wasn't a big turnout so the director asked me to come up on stage "just to help read". Well, guess who ended up getting a part. It was more than just a walk-on, it was the third largest part. The memory of looking out from backstage, waiting for my clue to go on stage for the first time is permanently etched in my brain.
Voluntarily walking out on that stage was the scariest thing I had ever done, but I am SO glad I did.
posted on August 24, 2001 12:36:51 AM new
“Have you overcome a fear?.....”
Yes ..I have a real fear of Clowns....But I’m learning
to face my fears one day at a time..... CLOWNOPHOBIA
is a real problem for millions...
But there is HELP......
Clownophobics Anonymous
EBAY ID
JUMPIN*JACK
[ edited by jumpinjacko on Aug 24, 2001 12:42 AM ]
posted on August 24, 2001 04:16:43 AM new
I just sort of like how I and my life ended up since I didn't really have any role models for either.
Fears: I had a fear of sleeping in the dark until a few years ago. Can't really say I overcame it. One night the light was bugging me and I turned it out and for some reason the dark just doesn't give me the creeps anymore.
posted on August 24, 2001 04:49:13 AM new
There are quite a few things I don't like about myself - but I am happy that I don't panic. I do whatevery needs to get done whether it is controlling the car after a crash or stopping the arterial blood from squirting or carefully aiming at the fool that missed and take him down and THEN I sit and have the shakes and get upset about it after.
I am so glad I can be friends with women without being romantically attached. I have some dear friends that are women and I see a lot of men that don't seem able to do that. They lose out on half the human race.
It amuses me that they also assume that you can't if they can't so they think you are "involved" with any women you spend time around. One old boy said in an indignant wisper "He lives with three women!" I am not sure if it was indignant or jealousy. Maybe both.
I am glad my parents taught me to say no.
So many people cave in and go along with almost anything to avoid a fuss. Especially if it is to an authority figure. I was able to firmly and politely say no when asked to do thinks I thought wrong in school and then in the workplace. I can't recount how many employeers have asked me to falsify documents and cheat people and I would not.
posted on August 24, 2001 06:55:07 AM new
I am open-minded.
I am a loyal friend.
Unfortunately, I've had 2 best friends in my lifetime who weren't. One male, one female.
Nothing has hurt me more in this life than being dropped by both with no explanation other than "I'm too busy".
That is not a valid excuse. One should never be too busy for a friend in emotional need. Especially a friend who went out of her way when they were in need.
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I can't say I have had any fears. I have had stage fright prior to piano solos or singing solos. But, I consider stage fright an asset, as it gets your juices flowing.
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Gravid,
You are so right about male/female friendships. There are people who do not believe a (heterosexual) man and woman can have a platonic friendship.
I have been best friends with a guy for 48 years (since grade school) and everyone, except my DH and family, thinks that surely we have had a thing going on all these years.
posted on August 24, 2001 07:10:03 AM new
Glad to hear someone else has the same experience. It can be real amusing if you don't take it personal.
I figure someone who does not have the ability to be friends with a woman (and the opposite) is a bad bet for long range stability in a marraige.
posted on August 24, 2001 07:59:47 AM new
I suppose my strongest asset is that I like a variety of people. ( And I suppose that that is why I get b!tchy when there's an effort made to devalue opposing opinions.) This preference for a little spice in life has made it easy for me to get disparate groups to work on common problems and to interview people from different backgrounds.
I agree with gravid and femme about having friends of the opposite sex. When you view people as individuals and yourself as someone other than a sexual stereotype, that's easy to accomplish. If you view members of your own sex as competition and the opposite sex as mate material only, you limit yourself -IMHO.
jumpinjacko, I'll show my husband that site. He finds clowns and puppets freaky.
posted on August 24, 2001 09:10:19 AM new
.....fears?....I am afraid I might fall asleep with my mouth open and I'll swallow a fly... Still working on that
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posted on August 24, 2001 09:38:42 AM newWhat do you really like about yourself?
I have many positive qualities. I have been a good wife, mother, friend, neighbor, community member etc. I'm a giving, caring, compassionate, forgiving and generous person. I don't hold grudges and like getting problems settled as quickly as possible. (Put it out on the table now type person). I've been told, by those who know me, that I have a special way of seeing both sides of an issue. I keep secrets....I have never violated a confidence. When I start a project I see it through to completion.
Have you overcome a fear?
Almost drowned as a child in the ocean. Got caught in seaweed and couldn't surface, before I learned how to swim. Overcame my fear of large bodies of water.
.....a negative personality trait? ME???? I'm a proud person, and that has created a problem or two for me in the past.
.....are you really good at something? Yes, spelling....but math is my *forte*.
Kraftdinner - okay...you going to answer these questions too?
posted on August 24, 2001 09:45:08 AM new
I try my best (most of the time) to be a person with all the traits I most admire. I completely blow this effort...more often than I like.
posted on August 24, 2001 09:56:39 AM new
What I learned about myself is the ability to forgive and forget (well, sometimes forget). Someone hands me an olive branch, I always take it, even though its jerked back time and time again. I also learned that its stupid to keep reaching for it, but I will continue to do so when its extended.
I also learned that you cant please everyone, so the only thing you can do is try to please yourself as long as it doesnt hurt someone else if you can avoid it.
What I like about myself is that I give what I can, financially or mentally, to my friends if they need it and if its in my power to give it.
posted on August 24, 2001 10:39:00 AM new
Thanks LindaK for asking, but mine is too boring.
People never talk about their good traits. Maybe it sounds too self-centered, or we're too humble, but we only really know each other based on opinions on various subjects, and not so much the other parts.
Do any of you take the time to think about yourself and your accomplishments? I bet you not very often!
posted on August 24, 2001 10:58:52 AM new
Do any of you take the time to think about yourself and your accomplishments? Yes. If I didnot, it would be doing a great disservice, to those that pave the way and gave up so much for me to make those accomplishments.
posted on August 24, 2001 01:53:16 PM new
My husband thinks clowns are demonic and doesn't want them in the house.
And you know what? A lot of them DO look demonic.
My good traits are that (when I was working) I could do repititous, thankless, boring, endless tasks and the quality of my work remained the same. Kind of like house work.
I'm a natural speed reader. I can't tell you what an advantage this is, it compensates for my missing math gene.
My husband says that he is incredibly happy, so I must be a good wife (either that or he is really easy to please, I prefer to think its me).
My bad traits are that I am judgemental, xenophobic, suspicious, a stickler for rules, have trouble remembering names, and I never say hello first. I rarely have a friend. Aquaintances yes, friend no.
I don't think I've ever given in to fear. I'm terrified of needles, can't even stand to look at them, but I donate blood and have even donated platelets a few times (one hr hooked to the syphon(sp?) machine).
I am terrified of dentists, but I always go.
I'm intensely private, but I had to be a military urinalysis monitor. In the military, you have to provide the specimen while being observed, sucks for the observee, imagine what it's like to be a watcher when you aren't even in the medical specialty.
posted on August 24, 2001 02:07:19 PM new
Hmmm...I can sing Alto while standing next to someone singing another part, and keep my part. This doesn't sound like much to those who don't sing, but it is.
I can find dead center on a wall without a measuring tape. It's turned into a family joke...I mark what I think is the center, and then hubby measures. 99% of the time it is within 1/4 inch of dead on.
I am loyal and don't gossip. Even when lied to and gossiped about, I kept my mouth shut. If someone will gossip to me, they will gossip about me. That was a hard lesson to learn and I learned it at the knee of someone I trusted with my life. I don't trust too many people anymore...
I am blunt and will tell you what I think if you ask me, but I will not lie to you. This is a good thing or a bad thing depending on where you stand.
posted on August 24, 2001 02:27:27 PM new
Glad to hear some of you have a good sense of humor....especially since I stated that what I was good at was spelling and math. I have a sense of humor too. I do apologize to all for my terrible spelling and grammer. The unit I use (to play) on AW does not have a spell checker except on the email function. I
posted on August 24, 2001 02:39:31 PM new
Good trait or bad trait? Probably a bit of both.
If you ask for my opinion, I will give you my honest opinion. Not what you want to hear, but what I think.
For instance, I was going out somewhere with a relative of mine. She asked me if she looked fat in her outfit. She did so I told her. She got mad at me. Hey - she asked ...
I know it comes from growing up in a large family. No time for BS.
posted on August 24, 2001 02:50:54 PM newfemme.......Why do think I look so haggard! I AM AFRAID OF GOING TO SLEEP!....
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posted on August 24, 2001 03:22:44 PM new
Have you overcome a fear?..... YEP I even started posting here didn't I?
You people scared the living bejebbers out of me to start with and I took a long time before I was brave enough to post, so I guess you could say I have overcome a fear. LOL
I am also afraid of snakes and cane toad and we have both in our summer months.
I think my most negative trait would have to be that I want to help everyone, and I am a very over protective mother....or so I am told.
My best trait would have to be that I try to see the good in everyone. Some in my family tell me this is not a good trait but I think it is. I hate fighting with anyone. Now that comes from being a middle child in a reeeeally big family. There were just too many to fight with and you could never win over the big guys anyway, and you soon learn to see both sides of the story.
