posted on June 11, 2004 06:46:58 PM new
Well, Mr. Family Values, aka Tokyo Rush, aka Rush "Where's my housekeeper!" Limbaugh is getting a divorce.
Must be all those gay marriages bringing about the collapse of all these "good" marriages!
posted on June 11, 2004 07:04:48 PM new
Ohhhhhhhh Noooooooooo
Please tell me it's not so. BTW, is this the same guy that was HOOKED on prescription drugs? Meaning that he had a mental or physical addiction to them because he had no self control.
True Americans do not exclude anybody. They recognize that everyone should have the same rights. Bigotry, intolerance and hatred are cancers of the mind.
posted on June 11, 2004 07:32:20 PM new
Nope, Limbaugh has always had a problem holding on to wives.
First wife filed for divorce in 1980 (after 3 years) citing "incompatability."
Married his second wife in 1983--she walked out on him Christmas weekend, 1988. (5 years)
Married his thrid wife in 1994--and is now divorcing her just 10 years later.
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What does incompatibility mean? That she was thin and he was FAT! Please don't charge me for that question.
True Americans do not exclude anybody. They recognize that everyone should have the same rights. Bigotry, intolerance and hatred are cancers of the mind.
posted on June 11, 2004 08:21:41 PM new
Rush will have to revise his philosophy on family values to state that it's "conservatism" that poisons the soul and destroys character.
posted on June 12, 2004 01:39:31 AM new
Does Rush have any children? Just curious; I've heard no mention of one, but I don't follow HIS life closely.
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posted on June 12, 2004 05:07:47 AM new
I hate divorce even though I know that it's a necessary evil. I know this is off topic, but I'm bothered by something. My mother told me yesterday that she and my step-father are getting divorced. Even at my age, it's a hard pill to swallow. She's 69 and in the beginning stages of Alzheimer's. Apparently he cannot take it anymore. The divorce was his idea. I want her to live with me, my brother wants her to go to an assisted living facility and she wants her own apartment. Decisions will have to be made eventually that I know will split the family. I love my step-father and hate to see this happen. My mother, on the other hand, is a bit relieved because he wasn't making life pleasant for her. So, I think I'm expected to take sides. Parents!
On topic, I think Limbaugh is a horses behind (sorry horse lovers). If I were married to him, I'd divorce him as well. My boyfriend and I have the perfect solution - we live together. He's been married twice and I'm a widow with no plans on marrying again. Works just fine here.
posted on June 12, 2004 08:06:26 AM new
cblev- The divorce may in fact be a good thing, even though it doesn't appear so at first glance. If she's in the EARLY stages and he's already getting freaky, it'll only get worse. MANY victims of Alzheimers are also abuse victims. Maybe this situation will save her the abuse.
I've seen Alzheimer's close up. This next part is going to sound horrible as well. Unless you expect her to die fairly soon, don't have her move in with you- she could easily destroy your family as well. Too many YOUNG families are ruined by exposure to Alzheimer's- What you father is going through is normal- it's a hard disease to deal with. Now if she's very sickly and expecting to die soon, then taking her in as an act of hospice would be good. But if she's planning on being around long-term go with one of the other options.
Probably the best compromise if she really isn't bad yet is to let her get the apartment. Maybe you could advertise for an elderly roommate to help out or arrange for some kind of homecare worker to make occasioanl visits? Once it becomes apparent that she can't handle it then go with the nursing facility.
But think VERY carefully before you commit to having her move in with you. Once they're in, it's really hard to get them out- "You're throwing me out on the street, what kind of horrible daughter are you?"
It's a nasty situation, and you may want to get counseling while it's still early.
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posted on June 12, 2004 08:28:52 AM new
Well, at least his marriages are lasting longer! His next should be for at least 12-15 years, provided he can find some poor soul with no self-esteem to marry!
posted on June 12, 2004 09:13:00 AM new
Cheryl: Here's some unasked-for advice.
In 1991 my mother's widowed life became very confused. She lived in Arizona, we were in northern Utah. Turned out she had dementia from many undetected little strokes and one larger one no one had noticed and which hadn't affected the things that show up to others.
My husband was a university administrator, and we asked around for the best geriatrics professor. Met with him, described my mother, told him we didn't have room for her in our home and wondered what to do next. He asked good questions about her personality, her previous life (did she care about appearance and "things," was she fussy about fancy decorating or had she been a rather simple person, etc.).
He told us there were a couple of good options--a down-home comfy assisted living place or a fancier place. Both were within minutes of our home. He suggested the comfy place.
Erroneously, we opted for the fancier place but it turned out she felt out of place in that one and it was rather cold and impersonal. After a year, we moved her to the cozy, friendlier, less fancy one, and she lived there for several years before needing a nursing home. After being near us for 8 years, she died, and I've never regretted bringing her nearer and seeing her nearly every day.
Long story, just to say there are people out there you can talk with and get good advice from. Before you do anything, do that!
And don't feel guilty if you don't take her into your home. I agree with whoever said, above, that it could be hairy for you later on if you do that. The apartment with a companion sounds like a good compromise for a while. ~Adele
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As I've matured, I've learned . .
#2. . . that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon and all the less important ones just never go away. And the real pains in the butt are permanent.
posted on June 12, 2004 10:00:51 AM new
Good advice, Replay!
We had a similar problem with my Mother in law. Although she was never diagnosed with Alzheimer's, she had the symptoms. She couldn't lock and unlock her door, for example but she could start the car and manage to get lost only a mile from her home. So we had to put her in an assisted living facility - similar to a nursing home but she had her own small apartment. It's worth the expense for you and your family's peace of mind. She will be happier and so will you.
posted on June 12, 2004 11:02:14 AM new
So Libs never divorce? Or do they condone (like in Clintons case) adultrious behavior so they preserve a "harmonious family unit".
"The Secret Service has announced it is doubling its protection for John Kerry. You can understand why — with two positions on every issue, he has twice as many people mad at him." —Jay Leno
No one said that Liberals never divorce, bear. The hypocrisy is that conservative Limbaugh whose character and family life are under scrutiny preaches that liberalism poisons the soul and destroys character. While just this year, he has made statements justifying torture, made the news on drug related problems and is now divorcing for the third time.
posted on June 12, 2004 11:51:40 AM new
{{{Cheryl}}}, I really feel for you right now. The thoughts of a divorce AND your mom's future must be a heavy burden for you.
If it were my mom, I'd keep her at home as long as I could and would only send her to a nursing home if she didn't know who I was or was a danger if left alone. 69 is still pretty young these days, so that too must be hard for you. I'm just really sorry Cheryl.
posted on June 12, 2004 12:04:28 PM new
Also cheryl - gravid, if he's still posting on the other chat boards, would be what I would think would be a great source of information for you. He's had years of the day-to-day experience of having his MIL live with he and his wife. He could share the benefits and struggles of having her living with them.
posted on June 12, 2004 02:08:52 PM new
Thanks, everyone, for the very sound advice. She'll be getting her apartment. A lot of her problems now I think are related to the stress my step father creates. Without the stress, she may do better. I'll also be able to get her started on some of the alternative therapies like massage, reiki and reflexology and eating some healthier foods. She'll be in an apartment right behind her brother's house and fairly close to me. She loves to watch my granddaughter (she's a great-grandma now) so having her closer may do a world of good. Right now she's about 1/2 hour away by freeway. When she moves, it will take us about 10 minutes to get there.
