posted on December 8, 2004 03:04:17 PM new
A while back, Crow posted something that I've been thinking about. Do you think kids should be taught early (at home or at school) that pregnancy isn't the be-all end-all in a relationship or marriage? I agree with Crow that it's sickening to hear women say that bearing children is their God-given right, but shouldn't we also be teaching children it's their God-given right to NOT have children and that that kind of lifestyle is just as rewarding?
posted on December 8, 2004 03:21:44 PM new
I don't know if it is as rewarding or not, but it should certainly be taught that it is a God-given RESPONSIBILITY, and not one to be undertaken before they are ready, both emotionally and financially.
I don't have a child, but I'd very much like to have one. Can I afford a child in my current situation? Not really, but I'd straighten up quick if I had the responsibility (or opportunity).
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posted on December 8, 2004 03:35:57 PM new
Whew.. krafty.. this is just the tip of the iceberg...
Little girls and boys are being programmed before they leave their cribs....color schemes, gender toys etc.. then comes the programming of the little girls with baby dolls and household appliances , boys with trucks, cars, tools etc...
By the time they go to school, the little girls know they will be mommy's and the boys will be daddy's... the mommy's take care of babies.. the daddy goes to work..
Times are changing for sure.. Mommy's now work along with Daddy's and Daddy's sometime share in Baby care..
So.. I guess where I am going with this is to say that until we stop stereotyping and role playing from infants in cribs.. the idea of choice will be hazy.. don't you think.
I hope this made some sense.. I am hurrying because my dogs are demanding their supper be cooked...LOL.. Maggie
Christmas is wierd when else do you sit around a dying tree and eat candy out of your socks?
I'm not sure what you meant when you stated "God-given RESPONSIBILITY". I, for one, never taught my children that it's their responsibility to bear children. You make it sound like that's the only reason we're here. If that is truly the case, where do you plan on putting all the offsping of every person on the planet? I doubt there would be enough room. Our house is crowded enough.
KD
Both of my children were taught that having children is a personal decision and they should never feel pushed into it, although I would love to have more grandchildren. They were not taught that it's a "God-given" right. They were taught about God and creatism, but they were also taught about my strong belief in evolution and 99% of the teachings of Darwin. I've allowed them to make their own choice and they've decided on what's best for them. The same thing my parents did for me and their parents did for them.
Cheryl
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence. This explains why we have so many stupid leaders."
-Sloan Wilson
posted on December 8, 2004 03:56:47 PM new
My wifes a special ed teacher and her co-worker was married for two years.Her mother was after her daughter to have kids. 6 months after they had the first child,the mother asks her when are they having the 2nd child-they had one a year later.Get this-then 6 months after that she ask when you having the 3rd one? The daughter replied "mom, the shop is closed, I had my tubes tied." Talk about pressure-I wish parents and in-laws would mind their own damn business. My wife and I never had in-laws,both are parents died in their 50's so by the time we got married they had passed on.But we got along just fine and were still together after
33 years.So you dont need parents or in-laws sticking their nose where it doesnt belong.The down side was I wished my parents had meet my wife,and my son never had any grandparents.Hey life sucks what can you do? I think too many people have kids,but dont want the responsibility that goes with it.The thing is you dont NEED kids to have a great life.
posted on December 8, 2004 07:28:58 PM new
Either I worded that badly or you misunderstood me, but I basically agree with your original post!
I didn't mean it was their responsibility TO HAVE children. I meant that children were the biggest responsibility you CAN HAVE. It's OK to have them if you realize the size of the RESPONSIBILITY involved.
It really is the end of your life as you currently know it and the beginning of something much bigger.
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Whew, that's better. LOL! Isn't it funny how just re-arranging the same words can so drastically change the meaning? For a minute there, I thought you had lost your mind.
Cheryl
"Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence. This explains why we have so many stupid leaders."
-Sloan Wilson
"Crow posted something that I've been thinking about. Do you think kids should be taught early (at home or at school) that pregnancy isn't the be-all end-all in a relationship or marriage?"
There is a clear expectation of children but an even stronger expectation that women will be married by a certain age. We might also teach little girls that choosing not to marry can be a rewarding lifestyle also.
