posted on February 7, 2001 08:50:09 PM new
This is a first for me...but then again, my chart indicated that this year would include breaking of taboos. Just one of the many things that have turned out to be truth. Hello VM...guess who? I told you I would post and I have hesitated only because I have been so awed by the events of the last two years (ones which, of course you prepared me for)that I wanted to be sure I could clear my head and speak from my heart.
I am the mother of the aforementioned "punk-ass, insufferable...did I forget any other colorful metaphor...son who is now much in
improved and quite a joy to me. She was actually being kind in her description of him, as he was dangerous. VM had him pegged by first looking at his photo. I remember the exact words she said..."oh my God, look at that smile. He's like Ronald Regan! Full of Sag rising!" Which meant little to me at that time because I was up to my ass in alligators with this kid. We began talking and she told me she would like to do his chart. I agreed. Somewhat out of morbid curiousity and somewhat out of a need to maintain my own sanity.
I saw her 8 weeks later. Once again, I remember her words exactly. "He's going to be o.k. BUT, you are in for the ride of your life." This was in August or September of 1998. She told me that it would continue and be hellish until Dec. '99 - Jan 2000. She also told me that this kid would land on his feet and be a complete success.
She told me the months that things would happen. It was unbelievably accurate. She told me February and March of "99 would be particulary ugly. He was in a juvenille facility by March 31st. She was very hesitant to tell me just how bad it would get because I was hanging on by a thread daily. However, I can tell you it went from bad to worse until September of '99 when he was sentenced by the court to a military style bootcamp. He graduated with honors on November 19, 1999.
The only thing I had to hang onto was her words (Aug-Sept of "98) that by December of '99 to January of 2000, he would straighten out. She was correct. He stayed out of trouble, graduated from high school in January, 2000 and on July 11, 2000 he left for Marine Corp Bootcamp. (No...I'm not proud at all!) He is now in intelligence. Hooorrrray!
The greatest gift...and it is a gift, that Vm gave me was one, little, simple word. HOPE. I had none. I've lost two men in my family to drugs, alcohol and crime. I had no reason to believe my son would be any different. What she does, she does with incredible accuracy, kindness and compassion. I might add, she is hysterically funny, and if you don't get it...she knows!
BTW...there is so much more, but I'll leave this for all to chew on!ne
posted on February 7, 2001 09:00:10 PM new
well, I am newer here, and I don't know you, but CONGRATULATIONS! You should be proud!!! Of him, and YOU for sticking by him when times got tough, I applaud you for that! Being a parent is THE toughest job...EVER!
Kaffro
posted on February 8, 2001 05:43:13 AM new
Hiya onbonustime Glad you could make it, congratulations on your first post!
onbonustime is a friend of mine who (along with her family) has just walked away from a head on collision with a drunk driver driving 75mph on the wrong side of the highway.
This story is on the full moon thread P.32.
posted on February 8, 2001 10:27:08 AM new
onbonustime...your name makes sense once you hear about the accident. Glad to hear that your family was able to avoid a catastrophe.
And big congratulations on your son's achievements. I can't imagine going through the hell of watching your child self-destruct. What a wonderful Mom for hanging in there when I'm sure you wanted to throw in the towel many times!
posted on February 8, 2001 05:04:40 PM new
Thanks for all the kind words towards me and my son. I had know idea I was starting my own thread...not as internet savvy as the rest of you, but always willing to ask questions. I THOUGHT I was writing on VM's thread, but learned I was brave, but not terribly bright!
