posted on February 14, 2001 10:23:27 AM new
who would you call, what would you say, and what are you waiting for?
I can't remember where I first heard it, or maybe I read it. I just know that it really made me think. It pops back into my head every few months and keeps me on track. I guess I'm feeling a bit melancholy this Valentine's Day ~ does anyone else have a "motto" like this? It almost haunts me ~ reminding me to live life with no regrets.
Care to share some of your wisdom???
posted on February 14, 2001 10:30:03 AM newchepistar...that reminds me of a joke...
Two guys are talking and one asks the other, "if you only had six months to live and had to pick one person in the world to live with for those 6 months, who would you pick?
The one guy picked Pamela Anderson, while the other picked his mother-in-law.
"Your mother-in-law??????, are you serious?"
"Definately" he said, "it would be the longest 6 months of my life!"
[ edited by kraftdinner on Feb 14, 2001 10:31 AM ]
posted on February 14, 2001 10:35:14 AM new
Hi Chepi sorry to hear you are feeling a bit melancholy on this Valentine's day...I don't currently have any real wisdom to share with you but I do have a finely honed sense of the ridiculous and I will share that with you & hope it puts a smile on your face.
I would call the faceless mortgage company, immediately give them the raspberry "Pttthhwwwppbbtt" and tell 'em the insurance has lapsed and I am setting fire to the place! They have made my life miserable with all of their mistakes, told me I owed $20,000 for insurance they put on the house (that I already had covered) increased my payments by double and were threatening to forclose. It took 2 months of phone calls, new blood pressure medication and many tears to get it squared away..Never an apology and even after they fixed it I got a dunning notice WHY?? Because they forgot to review the changes!!
[ edited by zilvy on Feb 14, 2001 10:37 AM ]
posted on February 14, 2001 10:45:09 AM newkraftdinner
jokes always seem to put wisdom in the right perspective! thanks!
zilvy <-- there's a smile on my face but sheesh ~ please don't go through that again on my behalf! Sounds like they're mindless as well as faceless...
lswanson
does that come from the heart or (teehee) did your wife catch you typing the eBay part?!?
posted on February 14, 2001 10:53:23 AM newchepistar...
Thanks...you just caused me to call my husband and apologize for throwing his coffee cup (complete with the last of the coffee) across the yard and slamming the door so hard the windows rattled... He forgives me...
posted on February 14, 2001 10:56:05 AM new
Dear Chepistar I'm sending you a big bouquet of hearts and warm wishes for Valentine's Day, wish I had a Rainbow to wrap around them.
A Warm hello from a friend of mine!!
He wants to give you a VALENTINE'S BEAR HUG!!
posted on February 14, 2001 10:57:26 AM new
Hmm, 10 minutes isn't much time. What I'd do would depend on where I was.
From home: I'd compose one email to my parents, brother, and friends, thank them all for being there for me, and add special words for a few of them. I'd cc some people at work so they'd know what happened. I'd have to be quick about it, though, because I'd want to spend at least half of my 10 minutes cuddling with my husband and with my cats! Oh yeah, and I'd also make sure my husband knew where to find the instructions for how our finances and stuff are arranged.
From work: Ditto about the email, then I'd call my husband, hang up with two minutes left and call my mom. (If I called her first she'd talk my ear off and I'd never have time to call hubby.)
posted on February 14, 2001 12:44:24 PM new chepistar...
Your words of wisdom really hit home with us right now. I will share it, hoping that it will be food for thought for others.
Two weeks ago a very dear friend of ours passed away, unexpectedly, while he and his wife were wintering in Florida. He had been a friend of my husbands for 43 years. I've been close to he and his wife since marrying my husband and moving to his hometown.
Last Fall, our friend told my husband to stop by for a visit to see their new retirement home. We didn't get around to it before they left for Florida. Translation: we didn't make time to do it. We would visit them in the Spring.
When writing a letter in the condolence card, I told his wife how much we loved him and how much we loved her. But, we never told him. Never even told him how much we valued his friendship.
At the funeral, I again told his wife and his grown children how much we loved their husband and father and asked his wife if she thinks he knew that. She said yes, and we needed that affirmation, but...
If you love someone, don't assume they know it. Tell them. Today!!!
posted on February 14, 2001 12:53:47 PM new
I can't die,my husband is helpless. I do the shopping and cooking, the laundry and bill paying. If I died he would starve, naked, in the dark. He told me that when I asked him about the 10 minute thing.
posted on February 14, 2001 01:07:57 PM new
With 10 minutes left I'd grab my honey and once again tell him how lucky I've always felt he chose to wander through life with me by his side. Then we'd write our sons a quick letter, again sharing our love for them both.
We've had enough illness and death in our family to be aware there may not be a 'later' time to share that love. Because of this, we have always tried to 'love-as-we-go'.
posted on February 14, 2001 01:11:12 PM new
I try not to make much of any holiday. You can really get yourself worked up over just another day.
Easier said than done. Two weeks before my birthday last year we had to put my husband's mom into a nursing home. This was the first time since we've been married that she didn't sing Happy Birthday to me. I was her buddy and she felt that I betrayed her. Both of us just ended up crying.
posted on February 14, 2001 01:14:39 PM new
LOL, december 3...
I was forced into reorganizing our files, after I asked my husband if he knew where I keep the safe deposit key. His reply...he didn't even know we had a lock box.
He knew we had one at our old bank, which I closed 8 years ago when I changed banks. He's hopeless when it comes to the finances.
Although I understood my files, I realized that they needed to be more detailed, should someone else need to find important info.
posted on February 14, 2001 04:38:39 PM new
Can I have 30 minutes so I can go to the store and stock up on doughnuts and cheese???
That's what I'd like to do with my last minutes...Eat all the doughnuts & cheese I could! yummmmmyyy!
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Sticks & stones may break my bones, but words can break my heart.
posted on February 14, 2001 10:29:53 PM new
HelnJoe - I understand what you are saying - for me Holidays seem to be 'just another day' here lately.
Last fall, we had to place my Mom into a nursing home... I remained strong and tried to remain optimistic in her presence .. then in October my Grandfather died suddenly .. I tried to remain strong and optimistic .. then the week-end of Thanksgiving my Grandmother died after a lingering illness .. I tried to remain strong and optimistic .. then the first week in January, my darling 6 year old Rottie died suddenly .. and I lost it all.. all that I had held in and tried to hold together just fell apart.. all the tears I had held in came rushing through and I honestly felt I could not go on.
Burying her was very difficult .. I kept petting her and hoping and praying that she would suddenly shake her ears and 'wake - up'.. but she didn't and all the strength I had shown previously could not be found.
So for me, I know from this day forward if I feel sadness over some issue I intend to release that sadness and not attempt to be 'strong' and hold it in.
Also, on a happier note - one of the things I remember most about my 'babie' was how grateful and amazed she always reacted when I would bring in 'another' bag of dog food - kind of like "WOW! Where did you get that?!!This is amazing!I was almost out of that stuff!!!".. it always brings a smile to my face. So, I think I want to have that attitude about life - just this undying grateful amazement over the way things turn out.
noteye
A sad Texan once commented "I Wish it would rain, not so much for myself, I have seen rain before. But, for my 10 year old son."
posted on February 14, 2001 11:17:09 PM new
10 minutes is such a short time. I would spend the first 5 minutes on phone calls: One to my sister to mend fences, one to my father, one to my grandmother, and one to my mom...she gets 2 minutes, everyone else gets one. Then I would spend the last 5 minutes holding my children.
posted on February 15, 2001 06:50:32 AM newkraftdinner
I got a bit mushy (if you saw my posting habits yesterday!) but my day really brightened up ~ thanks for being there for me!
kiheicat
please call your sister today!
muriel & xardon
ROFLMAO!!!
femme
I hope it was a good "hit home". Thank you for sharing with us!
My last ten minutes?
I would tell everyone that is important to me (especially my kids, my man, and my mom):
1. I am proud of you.
2. I believe in you.
3. I love you. and
4. Thank you.
and then I would hug my dogs!
here, there, and everywhere 
<-- there's a smile on my face but sheesh ~ please don't go through that again on my behalf! Sounds like they're mindless as well as faceless...
