posted on April 15, 2001 05:14:26 PM new
Ok here is the story, buyer wins, emails stating "feedback isn't necessary, but will post for you when received", I receive payment for a bunch of auctions and leave feedback for all.
Ok so I leave the feedback today and forgot he didn't want feedback and posted it anyway and now he writes that he po'd because I left feedback and he specifically asked for me not too.
Well to me he didn't not say to leave feedback, he just said it wasn't necessary, now I am facing a neg for leaving him a positive, somedays, you just can't win.
posted on April 15, 2001 05:19:38 PM new
Sounds like he was embarrassed about the product he purchased, or for some other reason doesn't want it known, and is concerned that someone viewing his feedback profile (family members, coworkers) might see what he bought.
posted on April 15, 2001 06:22:02 PM new
that's really weird. I don't think he's embarrassed by the item or trying to hide it because anyone could do a search by bidder and it would come up there. Unless he doesn't know that. In that case he probably doesn't know how to leave feedback anyway.
posted on April 15, 2001 07:19:53 PM new
I agree that him not wanting anyone to see what he bought is probably the case, he bought flavored condoms, so that might embarass some people.
But the guy has over 500 feedback and has left over 600 so it's not like he shouldn't know that anyone searching ebay can find what he has bid on for the last 30 days.
I know I am to blame somewhat, but he should have not said it wasn't necessary to leave, he should have said please do not leave, not necessary to me, is different, some just don't care one way or the other if they receive feedback.
posted on April 16, 2001 01:41:09 AM new
lol, that's a first! a neg for leaving a pos, what next?
i agree, if he didn't want you to leave him feedback, he should have just said 'please don't leave me feedback.' i'd have interpreted 'not necessary' as you did - that it didn't matter one way or the other.
posted on April 16, 2001 05:34:50 AM new
He doesn't want his wife to know he's buying flavored condoms.
Since they have been married for 20 years they no longer use them.
Now she will find out about the condoms while reading his feedback to find out what interesting items he has bought.
Then she hires a private investigator and eventually divorces him over a lurid affair with a younger woman with refined taste for the above mentioned.
All that over one little feedback.
What a perfect case again for a seperate buyer feedback it could save your marriage.
posted on April 16, 2001 08:38:00 AM new
If you're going to sell something like flavored condoms, you should make SURE you follow your buyers' feedback requests.
If I sell anything even slightly risque, I make the auction private so my bidders can bid without being spied on by their friends, family, co workers and neighbors. And, I never leave feedback unless they specifically ask for it.
posted on April 16, 2001 02:04:17 PM new
I tried a private auction once, but the darn EOA from ebay didn't come for four days after it closed and I had no way to contact my bidders until I got it. If I had an easier way of dealing with getting their info, I may do private auctions, but you can't rely on ebay notices and you can't get the info any other way.
posted on April 16, 2001 02:14:23 PM new
But you know, the minute somebody sees you bid on a private auction, they figure you bought a penis pump or a blow-up doll or something like that.
I'd like to make my book auctions private in order to keep bottom feeders from trying to woo my bidders away during the auction but there's a real stigma to having a "private" auction in your feedback and I think it would make people think twice about bidding on my stuff.
posted on April 16, 2001 02:53:27 PM new
dannkim - to find out the results of a private auction without waiting for the notices, go to My eBay. To the right of your screen, next to the "Items I'm Selling" is a link that says "See all item details". Click on that and you'll see your high bidder.
posted on April 16, 2001 04:35:16 PM new
I stumbled across a co-worker's "habit" while looking at his feedback. Hmm...Private auction? Whatever could he be bidding on?
So I did a buyer search on him and found that the private auctions were all adult verification. Curiousity got the best of us, so we registered and discovered that he was bidding on porn...during work hours.
But if someone is being really nosy, they'll find out what you are bidding on anyway, with or without feedback.
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